"Unable to Synergy With Each Other".

Recently I was searching on the question of what is the worst thing about dating. After reading many responses from various sources on that question it occurred to me that the vast majority of the responses could be categorized under the idea of a lack of synergy. In fact, one young lady responded that "Nowadays, the biggest challenge is that we are unable to synergy with each other." I was struck by that.

The dictionary defines synergy as "The interaction of elements that when combined produce a total effect that is greater than the sum of the individual elements, contributions, etc."

This speaks of a coming together with a meshing of things many things that match who you are. 

Some areas of synergy or matching that were spoken of as "worst about dating" included lack of commitment, education level, hygiene, spiritual background, kindness, confidence, lack of transparency, and many more. Some spoke of dating as being "clinical", "depressing" because one meets so many people who are really messed up. (paraphrasing there)

Another way of putting this is that people largely date those who are more unlike themselves than themselves. 

Once again, I was not surprised to hear this as it reinforces my contention that people who are more alike get along better more than people who are less alike. 

This is why I created Typedates.com as a way of giving people a dating tool that is based on instinctive realities not fly by night whims. 

Nothing is guaranteed in this life, nothing is perfect; however, when you date based upon instinctive sameness, which is matching personality type more rather than less with those you date FROM THE BEGINNING, you have a much stronger chance of having better dates rather than worse ones, of finding people you have a better chance of relating too positively rather than negatively. 

Personalty "synergy", if you will, is FACT. It has proved itself over and over again.

So, doesn't it make sense to give yourself the best chance of relationship success sooner rather than later?

Doesn't it make sense to be in control of your dating life rather than letting dating control you?

When you are picking those to date who MATCH your type more rather than less you are in control. The date may still not work out but you will likely have fewer bad dates because you are using personality type which promotes synergy to work for you ahead of time. It is very possible you will meet fewer people who are "messed" up (paraphrasing again) and meet more people you "naturally" enjoy because they are more like you than less like you at the core. 

I invite you, actually, I urge you to be good to yourself in your dating and date based upon personality type. Please consider using Typedates.com as the tool to use. It is a new niche dating site and needs time to grow but it will grow. Registration is free. Please register, spread the word and put dating "synergy" on your side.

Stop the Self-Sabotage!

So many people are performing "self-sabotage" when they date without using instinct.

Using instinct is knowing your personality type and looking for other types that are close to yours. Or at the very least, looking for types that you know something about whether they are close to your type or not and you want to meet them based on type knowledge first before using any other criteria.

Stop making things harder on yourself when it comes to dating and building relationships.

Check out the following quote:

"Many people dwell on the negative rather than the positive or create excuses for themselves in order to justify why they have not met all of their goals. In some cases, people will find it difficult to accomplish tasks because they are actually making things harder on themselves or are engaging in a form of self-sabotage. In order to stop making things harder for yourself, you have to be prepared to transform the way you approach your life. Learn to manage your time, acknowledge your weaknesses, and develop self-confidence."
Paul Chernyak, LPC

Personality type is an instinctive thing. It can be identified accurately and you can apply it easily in many areas of your life. Dating is one of them, a pretty important one in fact.

Date people you already know something about. The instinctive typing will not change. People can change many things about themselves but we can't change our Personality Type.

So when you are not using type as the main beginning criteria for dating you are using non-instinctive, may change, likely will change criteria for setting up that date. Why make things harder on yourself?

You increase your chances of having better dating experiences, meeting people who you have more in common with and developing more lasting relationships when you begin with personality type.

Typedates.com is being developed to help you do just that. Date based on personality type ala Myers-Briggs like information.
Registration is Free!