Thirty-Three Years of Personality Counseling Taught Me This!

Thirty-Three Years of Personality Counseling Taught Me This!TAKEAWAY: The more "alike" you are to the person you are dating or trying to love the better that relationship likely will be.

The above "takeaway" statement is THE huge truth I learned as a result of 33 plus years of career and personality coaching/counseling.

I retired in August of 2018 after 33 years of career and personality counseling at a major mid-western 4-year university. I have burned with a desire to let everyone know what I discovered.

If you desire a relationship with the strongest chance of success than base it on SAMENESS not OPPOSITES.

What in life can you be sure of? Death, taxes, yes for sure. In addition, you can be sure that your "Personality Type" is your asset of assets because it is an instinctive imprint, a preference within you.

You can take the knowledge of your type and use it at THE BEGINNING OF RELATIONSHIPS to make wiser decisions.

I used to think of it as a basketball scouting report that a coach might use. If I have a real good idea of what the opponent is going to do and is capable of, and if I know how they go about doing what they do, I can prepare with a greater assurance of what might happen.

The knowledge of your type and the type of your lover, let's say, is the scouting report. Unlike a basketball team, your "type" will not change from year to year. There will be "fluctuations" but since type is an "instinctive" preference imprinting, you can rely upon.

So date people who are more similar to your type than are opposite. 

INFJ Relationships

If you are an INFJ or are trying to love one, you should read this and really take it to heart:

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2018/06/11/10-things-infjs-look-for-in-a-relationship/?utm_medium=social&utm_source=pinterest&utm_campaign=tailwind_tribes&utm_content=tribes&utm_term=375598202_12176034_397542

What Personality Type Has Which Dominant Function

1. Find your personality type in one of the 4 lines below.
2. The letter at the beginning of the line is your Dominant Function.
3. Consider dating others of the same Dominant Function.

Opposites Attract But Not For Long!

I'll steal a little thunder from my dating site typedates.com by saying that the major takeaway I had from 33+ years of career and relationship advising is that opposites attract but the positive attraction does NOT last.

If your personality type is too different from that of your partner well things can be exciting in a positive way in the beginning but that instinctive oppositeness will end up causing trouble in the long run.

Folks can make it work, and if in an "opposite" type" relationship they should try by all means. It will be difficult, however.

Sure, life is difficult. My point is that if we can find relationships that are more "type alike" than that relationship has a much higher chance of success in every way.

So if you are looking for a relationship, short or long term, then consider searching based upon your Myers Briggs or Jungian personality type results.

Happy Birthday to Me!

Today is my birthday and I just thought I'd treat myself and wish myself a Happy Birthday.

Is kind of neat, my date is: 2/20/2020

What is the Dominant Function?

I love talking about the Dominant Function. One reason is that this preference is your most naturally preferred behavior, this is your home.

You will be Dominant in either Intuition (N); Sensing (S); Thinking (T), or Feeling (F).

Simply put, your Dominant Function is that behavioral preference on the Myers Briggs spectrum that gets the highest amount of your most natural "energy" let us call it.

You only have so much energy. The Dominant function gets the most amount all the time, always #1 in energy distribution.

The Auxiliary function gets the second-highest amount. We move on down to the Tertiary and Inferior functions in order.

The last two functions, Tertiary and Inferior are the most difficult to be in. Why, they are just not as strong as the Dominant and Auxiliary because they are not "chosen", used as much. You just do not instinctively prefer them as much as the first two.

One of the more interesting realities regarding the Dominant function is that we literally speak through this function.

Yes, we "talk" through the Dominant function.

Coming soon: Which Types Have Which Dominant Function.

"Dominant Function" of Personality Type is Your "Love" Secret.

"Dominant Function" of Personality Type is Your "Love" Secret

After 33 years of career/relationship coaching, I am here to repeat the title of this brief article to you.

Your "dominant" cognitive function of your personality type IS your love secret.

Find someone with the same  Dominant function and your relationship will be better.

I've coached thousands of college students and alumni of all ages during my career as a career counselor and invariably the vast majority of career sessions would entail conversations regarding relationships the clients were having or had experienced and how that was impacting their career planning.

Over 90% of the time when there was relationship trouble the pair had completely opposite personality types or mostly opposite personality types, or they were in a relationship with someone whose "dominant" function was their "inferior" function.

My 33 years of field experience as a career counselor and a Myers Briggs practitioner have confirmed that when folks relate with someone of the same dominant function the relationships are better, longer.

The new dating web site, "typedates.com" was developed to use this personality cognitive fact.

At typedates.com one can find someone of their same personality type or same dominant or auxiliary function or even date someone of the opposite type if one is looking for adventure and excitement in temporary relationships.

                                                   

Dating Site Built On Personality Type

Dating Site Built On Personality Type

Build relationships on instinct!!

When you understand what personality type is, it only makes sense to find relationships built upon "type". Not exclusively of course but "type" should be THE foundation stone of any relationship.

"Personality Type" is an instinctive preference for certain behaviors over others.

We use many behaviors but some of them we do not "prefer". It is like being right-hand preferent or left-hand preferent as an example. We have a "natural" feel for using one hand over the other hand. It is similar with behaviors.

Now finding healthy relationships build upon personality type (instinct) has become easier, much easier.

Introducing "typedates.com" a web site that will help you find potential relationships and dating opportunities based upon your personality type as described by a Myers-Briggs description.

(Typedates.com is NOT affiliated with the Myers Briggs instruments or Foundation in any way.)

Moving forward I will be posting many thoughts and resources regarding how each of the 16 personality types find love, romance, relationships, and more.