Personality Type Scouting Report On Communication-What to Expect!

I'm fond of using a basketball scouting report analogy when talking about personality type and communication.

If you get a good quality scouting report from a trusted source, you KNOW with a good deal of confidence what the other team is capable of and is likely to do.

This is like knowing the personality type of someone you want to date, are dating, want to love, are loving.

You know if the other team brings pressure early full court, if they normally play a man rather than a zone defensively, like to zone inbounds plays, oh all kinds of stuff. Point being, you can prepare for them.

Regarding personality type, all of us speak with our Dominant and Auxillary functions. I mean literally speak our native tongue through these 2 functions. No exceptions. All humans do this. THIS CAN BE ACCURATELY IDENTIFIED!

So the knowledge of how someone is likely to speak to you can potentially help us better understand how to listen and respond.

All of us have a "type code". I am INFJ. That is my "type code" so to speak. It is instinctive and will not change. That gives great assurance and confidence. Your "type code" is instinctive and will not change also.

Now consider this:
1. If I date someone with the same two middle letters (NF) than our communication is likely to be relatively easy. BECAUSE we are speaking the same "psychological" or "behavioral" language.

2. If I date someone with one middle letter same as mine, let's say the "F" is the same as mine but the other letter is different, let's say an "S", then communication is likely to be moderately difficult. BECAUSE we are not speaking the same language, but there is some similarity, this is like "learning" a foreign language vs speaking a foreign language because you are native to it.

3. Also, if the two middle letters are completely different, in this case instead of "NF", matching mine, we have "ST" which is completely opposite of mine then communication is likely to be much more difficult. BECAUSE we don't know the foreign language very well at all, have not studied it, don't really want to! Wow!

Now the reason for this is that for the INFJ, NF represent the Dominantly preferred behavioral function of Intuition (N) and the Second or auxiliary preferred function of Feeling (F). INFJs speak, literaly, THROUGH those two functions. 

Takeaway: The more ALIKE your two middle letters of your personality type code are to someone else's, the better the communication will be. The more UNLIKE they are the more difficult the communication will be.

So use this "code" reality to help as you date and relate with others.